As we begin 2015 it is an exciting time to reflect on the start of a new year and plan goals looking forward. This is the time to formulate New Year’s resolutions as we think about the changes we want to make in the year ahead.
While fitness and weight loss are probably coming to mind, for many men quitting porn addiction will be right up there at the top of the list. There’s even a chance you’ve had it on there before but found yourself relapsing and unable to quit.
As you think about making the resolution to quit porn in 2015 there’s some important tips I want you to consider first.
Tip #1: Don’t set yourself up for failure.
The goal of quitting porn is to completely stop using it so it’s easy to see one relapse as a failure. However, this is a tall order for a New Year’s resolution and you’re setting yourself up for shame and disappointment if that one relapse happens.
Instead, make quitting porn your goal but don’t demand perfection of yourself from day one. Be vigilant and continue to improve until you reach your goal of zero porn. Don’t count one relapse as a failure and refuse to give up until you’ve reached your goal.
Negative feelings like shame and disappointment hurt our confidence and self-esteem and this actually keeps us in the cycle of addiction. Be cognizant of these feelings and don’t beat yourself up. Instead learn from failure, stay positive, and continue growing and moving forward.
Tip #2: Don’t depend on your resolution to motivate and incentivize you.
While a resolution can serve as an incentive and a motivator, it should not be relied on. It helps but quitting an addiction will take much more than this.
Make sure that in addition to making it a resolution, you also educate yourself on porn addiction and continue to work at the steps to overcome it. And if you’re looking for more information a great place to start is reading all of the blog posts right here at Porn Enlightenment.
Finally, if you don’t already have some, create goals for why you want to quit porn. Figuring out the reasons you want to quit will help motivate you and will make you lose interest in porn.
Tip #3: Keep getting better until you succeed.
If you go one week and then relapse pat yourself on the back for going one week. Then make it your goal to go further than that next time.
But don’t be satisfied with just that approach. Every time you relapse do more reading and research into your addiction. This way, not only are you working to increase your number of days without porn but you’re also building your knowledge and understanding too.
If you continue to grow from each failure in this way you will eventually be unstoppable. Be vigilant and continue to improve, you will get there.
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