In Part 1 of why you should quit porn you saw four of the most significant negative ways porn can effect your life. Part 2 of this discussion will look at the positive benefits of quitting and how your life will change for the better. Pulling on the collective experience, here are some of the changes people have seen when they removed porn from their lives:
- Renewed self esteem and confidence: all the shame, embarrassment, and self-loathing that comes with porn use goes away when you quit. Just to be extra cliche, it’s like lifting a huge weight off your shoulders. It takes time but the longer you go without porn the better you’ll feel. All the negative feelings will be replaced with greater confidence and self-love, and you will see the benefits of this in so many aspects of your life.
- Better social skills: usually tied directly to the boost in self-esteem and confidence, ex-porn users often cite improved social skills after quitting porn. This is because you will become more comfortable with the opposite sex when you’re not viewing every woman in a sexual lens. Additionally, confidence is often what holds people back from good social skills so the correlation is usually apparent.
- Renewed energy: all that time and sexual energy you used to expend watching porn and masturbating will create a reservoir of new energy that you never knew was there. If you don’t use this new found energy you’ll find yourself tempted to relapse so use it. Try new things, work out, play sports, chase dreams, and embrace life. Porn addicts who quit find that they suddenly have all this new energy to do things they didn’t even know they were capable of.
- Increased productivity: following along with the increased energy, you will also have more free time with porn out of your life. The combination of time and energy is a huge opportunity to boost your productivity. There are so many things you could do. Take classes, workout more, start a new relationship, write, start a business, the possibilities are endless. You have the opportunity to be the person you want to be.
- Better relationships: removing porn from the equation brings so much potential to have better relationships. First, your partner won’t have to feel cheated or jealous anymore. Second, you’ll find yourself more focused on other aspects of the relationship with a decreased importance on the sexual component. This is especially true of addicts as addiction numbs your feelings and emotions so ending the addiction strengthens these components, thus increasing intimacy in the relationship.
- Better sex: perhaps ironic to some, sex is much better without the influence of porn. Sex will become more intimate and natural. You can remove the voyeur mentality and extreme influences that porn brings into your sex life. Especially after 6 months of no porn you’ll really see that it’s not effecting your view of sex anymore. And if you don’t believe it’s going to be better just ask your partner how she feels about it. For more information on the differences of porn and real sex check out my post on that topic.
- Super powers: this tends to be the one people are most skeptical of. Many porn addicts that overcome porn addiction cite having super powers afterwords. They feel totally reborn, and actually, this makes perfect sense. Many addicts suffer from depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, porn-induced erectile dysfunction, and a host of other side effects from using porn. Eliminate the side effects and life is much better. Many recovered addicts fall in love, improve their current relationships, experience a sudden explosion of productivity, try new things, get fit, and just feel completely reborn. I’m no stranger to this as I also experienced super powers after quitting porn. I’m doing things I never made the time to do before and my confidence and outlook on life just keep getting better, it’s like a natural high. It truly can be a life changing experience.
These are some of the most common benefits people experience after stopping porn use. This concludes why you should quit porn after exploring some of the negative effects of porn use and positive benefits from overcoming porn. If you found this even remotely interesting, please leave a comment. Or if you have a benefit you’d like to add to the list, please share because you never know who might benefit from your experience.