Superpowers have become the urban legend of the porn quitting community. We tend to either pray for it like an earnest Catholic boy on a Sunday morning, or we treat it like the dream of some deranged child met with the highest degree of skepticism we can muster.
Worst of all though, is that many have come to expect it and when they don’t get it are faced with overwhelming disappointment. They give up because they don’t feel like a God after just a few days without porn.
It’s a topic of hot debate as many talk about their experience with superpowers while others have quit porn for extended amounts of time and claim to have never experienced these mythological powers everyone speaks so highly of.
Just look at this screenshot from Reddit/r/NoFap where you can see a variety of perspectives on superpowers in the titles.
For the uninitiated you’re probably wondering what the hell I’m going on about and getting ready to ask me if I can either explain myself or STFU. I get it, I get it.
Superpowers refer to the incredible confidence and natural high that many people experience after quitting porn. They feel like a new person citing things like increased productivity, insane happiness, and the confidence to ask girls out, among other things.
You want some proof you say? Here’s some pretty compelling evidence and it’s inspirational to boot:
As I mentioned people debate the existence of said superpowers. Let’s take a moment to explore some peoples stories on the topic.
- Here’s a pro-superpower story
- Here’s an example of someone experiencing no superpowers
- Here’s a great post where they explain how they got superpowers
- Here’s an example where they didn’t experience what they would call superpowers but noted feeling much better after quitting
As these stories exemplify peoples experiences vary on the topic of superpowers. Now let’s dive into some lessons learned.
Key Takeaways About Superpowers
I’ve seen the debates on superpowers get quite heated and I think they take away from what really matters here which is quitting porn. So lets address a few points about superpowers.
1) Everyone’s experience will be different. While we’re all trying to quit porn, we’re all far from the same.
Some people are addicted while others are not. Some have underlying issues while others may not (or may not be ready to address them).
Let’s think about some examples. If you’re not addicted to porn and you quit you probably won’t get superpowers. In fact, you might feel a little better but there’s really no reason you would see a drastic change.
If you’re addicted and depressed then when you quit you’re probably going to feel like hell. This is normal. If you don’t work on your depression your feelings may not change much. However, if you work on your depression too you’re likely going to feel pretty fucking awesome after quitting porn and addressing your depression. Like you have a whole new outlook on life.
These are just some examples. You could probably think of an infinite number of scenarios that can exist and effect how you feel after quitting.
Expecting everyone to have the same experience is like expecting everyone’s journey through depression or AA to be identical. This is not going to happen.
2) How much work you put into your reboot matters. Some people just quit porn while others are changing their whole life.
What I mean is some people literally just quit porn and pretty much continue living the rest of their life as normal. They don’t change their other habits, they don’t get rid of their old friends and make new ones, they just change one variable, porn. Others do a series of things as part of their process including quitting porn, creating and pursuing their goals, exercising, dealing with depression, improving or starting a relationship, and making positive changes in their life.
The truth is, regardless of which path you chose no one is going to hand you anything. Just because you quit porn doesn’t mean everything else will magically fall into place. God will never descend from the heavens and hand you the keys to the world. You have to go get it. What I’m trying to say here is: “go-getta”.
Will pursuing a romantic interest still be scary as hell? Of course. Will pursuing your goals be easy? Of course not.
Regardless of when your superpowers begin, it’s pretty hard to imagine you won’t feel something akin to superpowers if you change your whole life around for the better. Ja feel?
3) Superpowers should be a bonus, not the reason you quit porn. There’s plenty of really good reasons to quit porn, superpowers being very low on that totem pole.
My primary reasons were how I feel about myself and how my addiction would effect my significant other. Did I get super powers? Yes. Was I expecting them or did I need them? No. Were they fucking awesome? Yes.
Are Superpowers Really Just “Normal-Powers”?
There’s a trend where people feel it’s really important to note that superpowers are not super and are just how we are naturally meant to be. I’m curious why you want to subdue how awesome you feel?
If you’re feeling “super” don’t belittle it, embrace the fuck out of it! Or alternatively you can tilt your wrist and prance down the streets, whatever floats your boat.
Maybe this is how we are meant to feel but let me ask you this, do you think everyone feels the confidence you are experiencing? Have so-called normal people faced their inner demons and overcome a paralyzing addiction?
No, they have not. So there’s definitely some merit in saying that superpowers are real. You’re not just returning to your “normal” self. You’ve accomplished something great on your journey — don’t be ashamed to acknowledge it!
As you can see from the different scenarios we shouldn’t expect superpowers by default. This is setting yourself up for disappointment and for porn addicts disappointment can be just one step toward a relapse.
The biggest reason that everyone doesn’t get superpowers is that quitting porn is not a silver bullet. It’s a very important step to take in improving ourselves but it’s just one piece of becoming our best self.
If you put in the work to address your underlying issues, fill the void in your life left from quitting porn, and chase your goals instead of deferring them then you should start feeling pretty awesome.
If you just quit porn and expect the rest of your life to change suddenly you may or may not feel a huge difference.
In either scenario, don’t forget all the far more important reasons to quit porn. Your self-esteem, self-confidence, your S.O., your values, shame, getting violence out of your sexuality, not supporting an industry that contributes to sex trafficking and abusive practices, and the list just goes on and on. For a few more of those reasons read this post.
With that I’d like to make a proposal. Let’s stop all this meaningless debate about whether or not super powers are real. Instead let’s focus on our individual recovery and becoming our best selves.
When you think about superpowers the only question you should be asking yourself is, how hard are you willing to work for it?
1) Click the link below to download the quick guide to quit porn and start implementing the steps.
2) Leave a comment and let me know the biggest benefit you’ve noticed from quitting porn. It doesn’t matter if you’ve abstained for 1 day or 1000, you’ve still got a story to tell and we’re all making this journey together.