While the list of effects from using porn could be quite extensive, here’s four of the most significant ways it impacts your life:
- Relationships: whether you’re married or not, porn can effect just about any relationship. Your significant other may not appreciate your use of porn and it could be making them feel jealous or unappreciated. This can put a strain on the relationship. If you’re hiding your porn use from your significant other well… that’s even worse. That robs your partner of an honest relationship and additionally will leave them feeling betrayed and cheated when they do find out. Furthermore, even if you don’t have a relationship porn can reduce your chances of having one. This is because for some men, porn use contributes to awkwardness with the opposite sex and loss of confidence.
- Energy: porn effects your energy level. Ejaculating frequently and expending all that sexual energy will drain you and rob you of energy you could be using to do so many other things. Energy you could instead be using to accomplish goals, exercise, be productive, or basically do anything else. If you ever feel you don’t have the time or energy to do things you care about, try quitting porn and see if you notice a difference.
- Self Esteem: porn use can result in lowered self esteem and confidence. This occurs for several reasons the first of which is shame and guilt. Often users are ashamed of their habit or addiction and this destroys their self-image over time. Additionally, not being able to quit can hurt your confidence and pride leading to worsened self feelings. Porn use can also reduce your confidence with the opposite sex or make you feel undeserving of a partner. It’s different for everyone but reduced self-esteem is a recurring problem for users.
- Sex: Like it or not porn effects your sex. This is true of all porn users, there’s really no escaping from this effect. The reason is because porn effects your view of sex. It develops the voyeur mentality, always thinking about watching sex instead of actually engaging in it. Also, as you watch more porn what you watch becomes increasingly extreme over time and this can bring extreme thoughts into your sex life. Things like choking, abuse, and anal are just some examples of activities you might want to try with your girlfriend after watching porn. This is not healthy because these sexual thoughts are unnatural and influenced by what you are watching. And your partner may not even care for them. Additionally, porn users think about porn during sex and during ejaculation, thus resulting in less intimate sex which is just worse sex.
Finally, I’d like to share a bit of optimism. Here’s a snippet of testimony from a former porn user talking about how quitting porn changed his life: “As someone who had severe depression and bad ED, I can firmly state that this has been a completely life-changing experience, and I'm only on day 21. I feel like the real me for the first time in 2 years, it's miraculous. Also, I think I am finally seeing green shoots that the ED is getting better - had some slight morning wood and as far as everything else, mood and confidence, they are sky high!” (For more on this see the original forum posting)
Stay tuned for Part 2 of this topic where I share the positive benefits of quitting porn and how it can change your life for the better! As always, stay strong and leave a comment. No seriously, leave a comment.