Depending on how we define porn we might think bikini and lingerie models are not porn, and arguably this could be true. However, we cannot forget that porn is a slippery slope. You might have started with lingerie models but look where you ended up.
Everyone wants to quit without actually quitting, to decrease our activities but not abolish them. This is the addiction at work. Our brain wants us to continue the habit that has made our brain feel good via continuous Dopamine release.
The fact is, trying to masturbate to “non-porn” is a losing strategy. Even if you look at girls in bikinis or lingerie, you’re enforcing the brain changes and addiction. It’s not about how naughty the content is. Your brain is addicted to the searching and the novelty so any kind of searching enforces your addiction, as do residual porn fantasies. The only way to really quit is to give it all up - permanently. You have to change your behavior for real if you expect real change.
Looking at “non-porn” is also a slippery slope because your brain requires increasing levels of stimulation and Dopamine to get excited. Just like how porn users find themselves looking at increasingly extreme content over time, the same holds true here. If you resort to “non-porn” chances are it’s just a matter of time before the content becomes increasingly extreme and you find yourself right back at hardcore porn.
Additionally, to get over porn addiction you want to stop objectifying women as this goes hand in hand with porn thinking. If you stop objectifying women it makes it that much easier to see porn for what it really is, and to never want to go back to porn again. So let me ask you, is looking at nude or semi-nude women objectifying women?
With all of this in mind, the most productive way to define porn is anything you look at and masturbate to. Anything. If you look at images or videos of any kind and masturbate you are feeding the addiction. This will work against your recovery and will strengthen the pathways in your brain of the addiction. You might see the difference between porn and non-porn but here’s the problem: YOUR BRAIN DOES NOT. To your brain it’s all the same.
If you’re serious about getting better don’t play games. Quit for real. Give it all up, it wasn't that great anyway. Think about all the positive reasons to. Think about the new found confidence you’ll have and relationships you’ll build. Think about how much better your life will be without porn.